“Look Eye! Always Look Eye, Daniel-san!”
Mister Miyagi said it best. Always look your opponent in the eye.
This not only works in competition fighting, but in real life survival too. Looking a potential threat in the eye, even before they become a threat may deter them from attacking you.
We, as a society, have developed a bad habit of not making eye contact with those around us. We spend most of our lives in school and at work, and in these environments we can get away with avoiding eye contact when walking by someone. Especially, folks we think will dump their “Negative Nancy” stories on us.
It’s easy to keep your eyes down, walk swiftly and make it to a cubical or office before acknowledging anyone, but on the street, in real life, that can be a fatal mistake!
Attackers look for targets that can’t make eye contact.
Why? Because it’s a sign of insecurity or it could be viewed as low self-esteem or low self-confidence and anyone who shows of these inner feelings in their behavior is a prime candidate for an attack.
Attackers look for easy targets. People who carry themselves in a poor or negative light appear to be easier to attack and less likely to fight back.
Even if you do struggle with self-confidence, we teach a simple yet effective way to disguise this inner feeling.
It’s called, “Fake it til You Make It!” No, I didn’t come up with it and you may have heard it before, but it’s true. No one can tell how you’re feeling on the inside unless you show it on the outside.
If you walk tall, head up and engage people with eye contact, you will portray someone of confidence whether you truly have it or not.
This simple tip can make a big difference when dealing with a potential attacker, they're likely looking for a quick and easy target, and not someone who would put up a challenge.
Nathan J. Nowak is the president of Professional Training Systems, Inc. and the owner of Trinity Fitness. Nathan has over 27 years of martial arts and self-defense training. He is the creator of “Are You Prepared?” A five week women’s self-defense course that can teach and train any woman how to defend herself and survive. For more information about Nathan and Trinity’s AYP? program, please go to www.trinitybody.com/selfdefense We can also be reached at 404.966.KICK (5425) or email at firstname.lastname@example.org